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The One Thing No One Tells You About Starting a Blog


They call me “The No BS Blogger”. By the end of this post, you’ll know why.

I’m so tired of reading that you can “start a successful blog in 20 minutes or less”. When I started blogging seriously, I thought I might be mentally challenged because I nearly threw my laptop over the balcony on numerous occasions out of frustration.

I’m obviously not going to chime in with the “starting a blog is easy” BS, for two reasons;

  • a. I hate lies and
  • b. I’m not angling for any kind of affiliate payment if I have to lie to get it.

That said, here are a few other things that they don’t (won’t) tell you about blogging.

“Write About Your Passion”.

If you’re looking to ‘write about your passion’ hoping to make any serious kind of headway with a blog, you’d better love Ramen noodles (or learn to), because you’re probably not gonna make much money.

If you’re looking to start a blog, most people will tell you to “write about something that you’re passionate about”. I read that and thought “that makes sense”. But this was difficult for me because I wasn’t ‘passionate’ about anything in particular when I started this blog. That’s since changed, but back then, in my mind, having something that I was ‘passionate’ about, equated to “do you have any hobbies?” I have no hobbies. I like everything in general, nothing in particular.

If you’re one of those people who also doesn’t have any ‘hobbies’ to speak of (and there are many, many of us), or anything that you’re particularly excited about doing, seeing, being, etc., don’t despair. That was me. I racked my brain for months about what I could possibly write about, that anyone else would give a shit about reading.

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Then one day it dawned on me; I love fashion, I love ‘lifestyle’ in the form of things like shopping for cool things for my apartment, trying new restaurants, hunting for great deals on anything I might want, health and wellness topics, etc.

Essentially, I like nice things. Hence the name of this blog.

That was it. That realization gave birth to “She Loves Nice Things”; Food, Fashion, Lifestyle and More. It was perfect 🙂 It’s not ‘nichey’ as most will tell you to be, and on some level, I regret not niching down further when I started this blog. It would have taken a lot less time to generate traffic to, and monetize.

That said, find a niche that you can cater to, and write about that. “She Loves Nice Things” is about the pursuit of nice things, a decent life, which I suppose covers just about any and everything you can reasonably think of, but whatever. I went with it.

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But I’ll tell you this; because this blog isn’t as ‘nichey’ as it could be, it took a HELLUVA LONG TIME to generate traffic to it, let alone monetize the damn thing.

Regardless, I did both…eventually 🙂

Write about your passion if it happens to be something that others will want to read about too. If not, you’re probably gonna starve from lack of traffic AND money, so choose something else.

*Should you include ads in your blog content?

Here’s where you start, regardless of your topic;

Domain and Hosting

Regardless of your chosen blog topic, your starting point is always going to be the same; purchasing your blog name and hosting.

Now…there are two ways that you can go about doing this.

I’ve built a few blogs in my ‘past lives’, so I knew that the first thing I had to do, was to see if the name I wanted was available as a domain for purchase. Lucky me, it was (obviously). At the same time, I also purchased hosting for my beloved new domain.

*This next bit is REALLY IMPORTANT. Please read it 🙂

Not everything is ‘as it seems’:

If you’re the type who makes a decision (like “I’m going to start a successful blog”) and sticks with it, this company might be right up your alley.

That said, you’re probably already familiar with the “script” from all the other ‘usual suspects’; “I use this web host and you should use it too, because it’s only $2.95 a month! But only with MY link! Wink!”

That isn’t entirely accurate.

Here’s the deal on the “$2.95 a month but only with my link” BS; Yes, you can get your hosting for $2.95 a month. I’m cheap AF, and I’d say that’s a great deal, but not only am I cheap, I’m also a hardcore skeptic, and if you tell me that I can only get that price “with your link”, I’m gonna poke around elsewhere to make sure that there’s not a ‘hook’ in that price.

The Truth, the Whole Truth, and Nothing BUT the Truth

So help me God…

I can’t stand half-truths and flat out lies, and there’s SO MUCH of it on the www. I don’t care what you’re trying to sell me, if I smell a lie, I’ll click away faster than you can say “wtf?”

That said, here’s the deal with most “$2.95 a month” hosting deals (you ready?);

Sure…you get your hosting for $2.95 a month! But you only get that price if you pay for 36 months of hosting in advance!

Yeah…that’s what I said. 36 MONTHS IN ADVANCE.

If you pay $106.20 ($2.95 x 36), you can have the hosting for your brand new blog, for “$2.95 a month”! (I’m Canadian, so that translates to $139.51 for me.)

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That pissed me off. I felt like I’d been “baited and switched” because you don’t see that total until you get to the checkout, and by then, you’ve wasted all kinds of time on the damn thing!

If paying for 3 years worth of hosting will keep you from quitting your blogging journey, by all means, go nuts

I don’t happen to be that person. 

At the moment, I own 7 (maybe 8) blogs, and I use Namecheap for all of them. 

Know why?

I use them because along with my web hosting, I also got free SSL Certificates (up to 50 depending on the plan), and free privacy protection FOREVER!

They’re $2.88 a month, and you pay that on a MONTH TO MONTH basis, unless you buy the yearly plan, and that drops to $1.53 a month or $18.44.

This gives you everything you’ll need as a new blogger!

Here’s where you can grab awesome web hosting at a truly awesome price; just $2.88 a month (or $17.88 a year)! (From time to time, this company has some killer deals that you can check out HERE.)

The next step…

Choose a Blogging Platform:

Now…I’m going to tell you something that no one else is telling you;

(I’m steady handing out the secrets here…)

I tell you this so that you don’t (like I did) start using this blogging platform, and want to throw your computer through a window, thinking that it’s supposed to be easier than it is.

That said, here goes;


Starting a new blog is MUCH more than “all you have to do, is purchase your blog name and hosting ‘with my link’, and you’re up and running!” 

And don’t let ANYONE tell you different!

WordPress is a fantastic blogging platform.

No question; it’s better than pockets.

I absolutely LOVE it… Now.

BUT…when I first started with WordPress, there were many (MANY) times that I actually (no joke) cried with sheer frustration over customizing the various parts of the blog, and sometimes I STILL DO when I’m working on a new blog.

WordPress will make you cry. I promise you that.

People make it sound like WordPress is easy to install and set up, but I’m telling you…IT’S NOT. Not for the newbie anyway. That’s simply because no matter what you’re doing, doing it the first time can be difficult.

By the way, if you’re looking for a way to make money without having to build a blog (or a job), check out this post 🙂

If you don’t already know what you’re doing, WordPress will make you question your mental ability.

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If you have access to someone who can install and set up your WordPress blog, please, for the love of GOD, get that person to do it

Regardless of WHO does the installation, once it’s all set up, you’ll need to choose a theme for your new WordPress blog, and customize it.

The next piece of advice I’d give you would be to make a list of bloggers that you enjoy, follow them religiously online/social media, and do what they do with their blogs.

Some will tell you to do something, but they’ll leave out a very valuable part of that piece of advice. Your job is to figure out what that piece is 😉

Making money with a blog is a ton of work, but it’s ‘easier’ than most other things that you could do for money. You simply need to know what steps you should take, and in what order you should take them. Which ‘landmines’ to avoid, and which direction will actually move you forward.

I blog because I want to make money that’s truly automatic.

I want to run a business(es) that I can legit run from absolutely anywhere. To blog, all I need is a wifi connection and my laptop. Sometimes I don’t even need my laptop, I can post from my phone.

The sad truth about blogging is that no one actually wants to tell you the truth.

I have no issues doing that.

Whew! That was a lot!

I’ll be going through the steps that I take to make money with all of my blogs, as well as all the juicy deets that those big bloggers won’t tell you, in The No BS Blogging Guide course.

It contains unfiltered blogging tips and hacks that the big bloggers don’t want to tell you about. 

In it, I’ll let you in on how to:

  • Choosing a name for your new blog
  • Purchasing hosting that won’t break the bank
  • Install WordPress (which is where most new bloggers throw up their hands and walk away)
  • Design your blog
  • Why you should use one hosting company over another
  • How to generate that all-important, money-making traffic 🙂
  • Let you in on other secrets that most other bloggers never would
  • How to ‘super power’ your Pinterest account

No BS, no smoke and mirrors. Just the ‘no bs’ truth.

In addition, if you’re looking for a web hosting company that you can trust and I haven’t completely scared the living sh*t out of you about starting that blog, click here to get your hosting for $2.88 a month 🙂

And that’s it!

Happy blogging!

Peace 🙂

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The One Thing No One Tells You About Starting a Blog

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  1. says:

    Omg! I resonated with so much of this! I was so miffed when I got to the checkout and had to pay $100+ when I thought I was signing up for “just” $2.75 per month. Also, WordPress has gotten me so riled up….and I am usually a fairly calm person. Thanks for the laugh and for making me feel a bit less alone!
    Much love 🙂

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Holly;

      WordPress is a BEAST. No joke. I’m also a fairly calm person, but it used to have me feeling like I was going insane.

      Hang in there 🙂

  2. Michelle says:

    Great post! Thanks for your honesty! I’ve been blogging for 9’months! This is hard!!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Michelle;

      Yup! It’s insane how many of us struggle with blogging, thinking that it should be easier.
      Hang in there!
      Peace 🙂

  3. carolyn says:

    oh my word! I laughed at how relatable this is!! Seriously….all those lie’s from all the other people who are pro-bloggers saying “it’s so easy just download word press and that’s it! you have a blog!!” ummm now what?! Thank you for writing this. I loved it. 🙂

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Thank you Carolyn! Glad you liked it 🙂

  4. Danielle says:

    Lol you sound like a Scorpio ! Love it !

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      I’ll take that as a compliment 🙂
      Thanks Danielle!

  5. says:

    I love it. Great insights, thanks for sharing this.

  6. says:

    Besides being informative, that was a pretty d*mn entertaining post! I just started a few weeks ago, so i’m as green as the grass on this blog stuff. I’ve come near tossing that b*tch out the window SEVERAL times! Thank you for the info and the laugh.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Thanks Matt! Glad you enjoyed it 🙂
      Good luck with your blog!

  7. Kyla says:

    I have strongly been considering attempting to start a blog for lifestyle and financial reasons. I have been reading a lot of different posts about getting started which all sound like clones of each other for the most part. However, one person said she was only going to attempt it for a year. Her thinking being if she couldn’t reach about $1,000 a month on average by the end of the year, she would cut her losses and move on. I have absolutely no experience with writing or anything technical past using google. I am wondering what you would say I could reasonably expect to accomplish within a year of attempting the blogging life if I really commit?

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Kyla;

      That’s a huge question, but I’ll try to simplify the answer. If you already have a way to keep your head above water financially, and you’re not in a huge hurry for your new venture to start making money, sure…go ahead and start that blog. Contrary to the general consensus, making money with a blog ISN’T guaranteed, and it’s DEFINITELY not fast. I can’t speak for other platforms, but learning to use WordPress ALONE will likely use up most of your mental resources. The learning curve on this thing is MASSIVE, but once you’ve got it down, you’ve got a sizeable part of the equation managed.

      That said, reasonably speaking, there’s no telling what you could do with your new blog. But as long as you manage your expectations (know that it’s not a “success in 20 minutes” kind of thing), you’ll get there…eventually.


  8. Joshua says:

    I laughed out loud when I read this, but it is all true. I don’t know why every six-figure blogger or blogging coach keeps telling people how easy it is. It is not easy! Blogging isn’t easy, WordPress isn’t easy at first, but if you are persistent, it can be rewarding.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Amen Joshua 🙂

  9. Kirsten says:

    OMG!!! I. LOVE. YOU.

    Thank you for sharing the whole truth on this!!! I am starting an online course and WordPress was recommended. They said it was easy. B.S.

    I have cried, screamed, and wanted to cancel my subscription to my web host provider.

    I did finally get some help, but I may have permanent brain damage from my previous frustration with wordpress.😁

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Kirsten…I HEAR YOU.

      I’m happy that this piece was of some help to you 🙂

      WordPress is great, but only once you’ve got the blog to the point where you just log in and write 🙂

      Have an awesome weekend! 🙂


  10. says:

    Hallelujah a blogger who fu**in tells it like it is! They also never tell you how to set up tripwire email sequences- which I desperately need help with! Sure I’ve got a funnel model but I need help actually setting it up!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Thanks Alicia! Tripwires are actually easy to set up. There are tons of posts on how to do it. Google it! Or better yet, YouTube MUST have some tutorials on the subject 🙂

  11. Jaime says:

    Yessss! Finally a REAL take on this blogging thing! Everyone made it sound so easy, so when I was frustrated beyond belief (and with tears rollin’), I assumed I was just an idiot, figured it just wasn’t for me and quit a month after starting (and yes, I was one of those dumb dumbs that paid $100+ upfront after being promised $2.95/mo🙄). A year later, I’m giving it another go….still frustrated at times, but understanding it’s all part of it! Love your honesty!! Thanks!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Thanks Jaime!
      Blogging is NOT by ANY STRETCH an easy thing to start. You just have to work through it, and if you need to take a break after a few months…take that break! You could also enlist the help of someone to do it for you. Trust me, it’ll save you a WORRRRRRLD of headache!
      Have an awesome week! 🙂

  12. Linda Jones says:

    Here’s another amen to what you’ve said. I paid that $2.95 host $149 to move my blog from to .org. Two years later, I noticed that the photos in older posts still pointed to .com. They wouldn’t fix it. I had to pay a web developer $75 to fix it because it was beyond my pay grade. This is my last year with them and I am SO gone. If you’ll read the middle of your WP dashboard, you’ll find that they promote WordPress meetup groups in your area. I’ve gotten a lot of help through them. Can’t recommend them enough.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Linda! Ugh! There are so many of these stories we could write a series of books! Good lookin’ out with the WordPress Meetup Groups! Great idea! Hope it’s all going smoothly for you now 🙂

  13. says:

    Kudos on removing the veil on the “it’s only $2.95 a month” Bluehost blog myth! I wonder how many people have felt burned with the $100+ fee they see at the end of the sign up process. Keep writing good stuff!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      I wonder how many people see that $100+ and go “wtf?” and actually click away? 🙂 Thanks Dan!

  14. says:

    Yaaaasssss girl! I legit just wrote a post similar to this! You are soooo right & this is sooooo true! These other bloggers don’t understand how writing this bs could cost someone major money! Glad I’m not the only one calling them out! Great post!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      It costs time AND money >:-/
      Thanks Vee!

  15. Deborah L. McDonough says:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for your honest post!! I have been FIGHTING with my blog since last July and am still not to the point where I feel I can go live with it. I’m a high school librarian with a fair amount of tech savvy and this thing is kicking my fanny. I bought a Genesis child theme and after much frustration, I have decided to pay a developer to help me. She looked at what I’ve accomplished and was very surprise I was able to get as far as I have. This mess is HARD!! And don’t get me started on the number of Pinterest posts I’ve read thinking I was going to actually find help only to realize that it was another pitch for buying their tutorial. I bought one last summer and it didn’t really help – I guess the person who wrote it assumed that we all have her level of tech knowledge.

    Rant over. I just wanted to tell you how much I appreciate that you made me realize that I’m not nearly as dense as I was beginning to think I was. THANK YOU!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Deborah!
      You’re not dense AT ALL 🙂 When I was first building this blog, I can’t TELL you how many times I’d run into an issue and thought “Why am I not GETTING this???” Kudos on getting a dev to help you! It’ll speed up the building process exponentially! Thanks for reaching out 🙂

  16. says:

    100% spot on! Thank you for your honesty. I was feeling really stupid…I’m talking thick as a brick! I’m slowly getting it, but still have SO much to learn. People totally underestimate the amount of time it takes to just get set up….don’t be fooled, unless you have no family, no job and no life. I can now say I’m loving the stretch to learn new things, and really love writing my posts.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Barbara;
      We underestimate how much time it takes to get set up because we’re told that it can be done in 20 minutes. We now know that there’s no way that’s true 🙂 Congrats on getting to your ‘happy blogging place’; where it’s a joy to log in and just write! 🙂

  17. says:

    I LOVE your no nonsense writing style!! I will be following you from now on!
    Wordpress is definitely NOT easy. It brings me to tears and temper tantrums a lot. That and WP Bakery.
    Thanks for your honesty.. it’s a blessing to read in all the “Look how easy this is” bs I see everywhere! ❤️

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hi Holly;
      The tears and temper tantrums never end, they just lessen in severity and frequency. LOL!
      I’ve never tried WPBakery, but I’ve found that those page builders only serve to make the process more confusing. No idea why the creators think they’re making things easier :-/
      Thanks for reaching out! 🙂

  18. says:

    Hi Debbie,
    I’m in front of my laptop still trying to figure out this WordPress thing after months of paying for hosting.
    I’m really frustrated.
    Is it possible to transfer to another host in the middle of my contract?

    Thank you for this honest truth.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hi Grace;
      Thanks for reaching out.
      I’m sorry to hear that you’re at your wits end with WordPress. Doesn’t make it suck any less, but know that we ALL have gone through this. This is exactly why it sucks to pay for years of hosting up front. Ugh.
      But don’t stress. You CAN migrate your blog to another host. You can actually have your new host move the account for you 🙂 Namecheap is where I host all of my blogs, and they have free site migration (you also won’t pay for 3 years of hosting up front) 🙂 If you sign up there, contact customer service through the chat at the bottom of the page, and let them know that you want to migrate your site to their servers. They’ll do the rest.
      It DOES get better. I promise 🙂

  19. Emily Armstrong says:

    I really appreciate this article for two reasons. One, because you call out the $3 host that is being pushed by everybody (which my blogger husband has let me know is not a very good host at all). Two, because you encourage people to find someone to help them. My husband has been blogging for ten years and works in marketing, so you bet I’m getting all the help I can from him!

    You are right about the “write about your passion” thing being unhelpful. Although in my case, I get passionate about a thing for a few months, and then bounce to another unrelated interest. Poor husband had to live through my “prepping for disaster” phase, when I was researching what weeds we could eat if society crumbled. I’ve since moved on to crochet!

    What I’ve found helpful is a different question, “what do you already have a ton of experience at?”. As a freelance illustrator, I’ve made coloring pages, educational drawings, and free printables for multiple companies. I didn’t realize at the time that I could have been doing this for myself. In fact, ten years ago someone asked me “why don’t you start your own printables site?” And my serious answer was “there are so many big sites with lots of traffic, I can’t possibly compete.”. I really thought the internet was “full”.

    Thanks again for your post, it’s appreciated.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Emily;
      I found that a lot of the information out there about blogging is actually the antithesis of help, and everyone is saying the same damn thing!
      YES! Start your own printables site!! Who CARES about those “big sites” with lots of traffic?? They’re not YOU!!
      Build your blog, grow your audience of readers who like and trust YOU, and you’ll be amazed at how well you do!
      Seriously. Give it some thought. Printables can be quite profitable 🙂
      Have an awesome week!

      1. Emily says:

        Thank Debbie! I really appreciate your encouragement.

        1. She Loves Nice Things says:

          Anytime Emily 🙂

  20. says:

    This makes me feel so much better about my struggles with WordPress. It made me feel incompetent!!! Thanks for the up front info!!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      You’re most welcome Sierra 🙂
      Have a great week!

  21. Kasey says:

    I have spent a month or longer reading blogs about how to start a blog. I really want to do this, but it is just so frustrating. Your blog I felt is very honest and to the point…no hustle about it, I like that. I could feel all the traps with so many blogs out there. Thanks for making the honest blog for us to read.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Kasey;
      Thanks for reaching out!
      It IS frustrating. But the frustration decreases when you get it to the point where all you have to do is log in and post.
      Baby steps 🙂
      Have an awesome week!

  22. says:

    Thank you! I love writing and have been looking into how to make money from it so I can soon work as an at home mom. Everyone talks about how easy it is, but I have played with the idea in the past and knew that couldn’t be the case. I enjoy your honesty and I believe it will help prepare me for the road ahead.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Aimee!

      I’m so glad that you found it helpful!
      Have an awesome week!

  23. Rochelle says:

    Once I hop on a blog and see that *one* site’s 2.95 deal, I click away. I know exactly which big blogger name they follow and I could quote you their entire website and sales funnels. They’re all the same. They probably don’t even use that hosting site anymore because it’s lousy. People lose their sites all the time on that one host. And yes, I agree, WordPress will make you cry. A thousand times. That’s why I switched to Squarespace and I haven’t cried once. I am glad you wrote this post, I hope more people find it. People need to be super super super careful online with the online biz/blogging sites– there’s a TON of people parroting what they heard in order to make a buck and they actually don’t know. Even worse, a lot of income reports are falsified. Always before taking advice or buying a product, do your homework! It cost me too much time and money to figure this out.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Rochelle!

      Thanks for the comment!

      Don’t even GET ME STARRRRRTED on the income reports (I wrote a post about those HERE) >:-/

      It’s only a matter of time before you realize that the whole “only with my link” thing is a trap.

      Have a great weekend!

      Peace 🙂


  24. Kathy McGrath says:

    Wow, thanks for your honesty! Bloggers always say ‘help your audience, but that’s not what I see happening in 99% of the posts I read. I am not a blogger (yet?) but felt compelled to leave my first comment ever. Thanks for being genuine and much success to you!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Kathy!

      Thank you! Honestly speaking, when I first wrote this post, it took me awhile to actually click “publish”, but I’m glad I did 🙂

      Have an awesome weekend!


  25. says:

    You are spot-on with this! And you definitely hit the nail on the head when you said that WordPress will make you cry! (Maybe even cuss or take up drinking! LOL!) And there is so much to blogging. Anyone who tells you it’s easy is so lying. But once you begin to make some progress and see that you’re building this thing that has the potential to be something big and amazing. If you’re willing to give it everything you have. Thanks for this honest and very informative article!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Thank you Nicole! Glad you enjoyed it 🙂


  26. says:

    Oh my goodness, YES. I feel *comfortable* with WordPress at this point, but I remember when I first opened it and stared in horror at the dashboard. It was so intimidating! Blogging is definitely not as simple as “just start writing.” The technical stuff takes practice!

  27. says:

    Thank you!!! WordPress is the ultimate love hate! I’m used to it now, but boy did it take a ton of trial and error… and more error.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Tazia;

      Good LORD yes! Great platform once you’ve pretty much figured it out, but “figuring it out” is a nightmare!

      Have an awesome weekend 🙂



  28. Kelly says:

    Hi Debbie,

    Thank you so much for this article. You write like you are actually trying to help and not just selling something. I am stuck in that phase where I want to try blogging but I don’t have a “niche” that I could see myself writing about. I love cooking, baking, making my own beauty products, etc. but not enough to write a dissertation on any one of them. It is quite discouraging to think I can’t blog without having one specific topic.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Kelly;

      You can start a blog that doesn’t focus on any one topic in particular. I’m exactly the same way…interested in many things. Cooking, baking and beauty are great topics to include in your content. Don’t be discouraged! Just do it! You won’t know how it would work out until you try it 🙂



  29. Joanna says:

    Very refreshing to hear the truth! I too was sceptical about the whole sign up with my link blah blah. I am tired of reading the same on every blog post. So thank you for the honest advice! ❤️

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Joanna;

      You’re most welcome 🙂


  30. says:

    Couldn’t agree more, creating a successful website is so challenging and takes TIME! Also, love your writing style! 🙂 Had to pin this blog!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Carmela!

      Thanks for the compliment! Yeah…blogging ain’t easy. Makes me nuts when I read that it is.

      Have an awesome week!

      Peace 🙂

  31. Kristin says:

    Wow, thank you!! I purchased my domain name and have several posts written but have felt so lost and overwhelmed with WordPress- I can’t even figure out how to make my blog go live! I have read dozens, maybe a hundred other “what you need to know”posts before happening on yours, and glad I did; your post truly delivered.

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Yup! “Lost and overwhelmed” is absolutely normal with WordPress. Again…you can Google anything you want to learn (which takes forever), or get someone to build out the theme to the point where all you have to do is log in and post. It’ll save you a TON of frustration and anxiety.

      Peace 🙂

  32. says:

    Yes, I love this. I remember when I first realized about *that* host. I kept seeing it over and over, every blog I read “recommended” it. Then finally I was like what is going on here? So I clicked over to *that* host and saw why everyone recommended them. I can see how it’s tempting to do that…if you’re totally dishonest…

  33. says:

    This was a refreshing change. I read the headline and thought “here we go again….”

    But your post actually delivered and wasn’t like the rest of the “noise” out there. So thanks for that! That was an interesting read and yes you’re right. It’s like a ton of bloggers are all building from the same script… gets a little boring at times don’t you think?

    Your post was different and I enjoyed it. Keep going!


    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey John! Thanks for the comment (and the compliment), and YES!! It does get quite boring and extremely discouraging right?

      Glad you enjoyed it 🙂


  34. says:

    And most of those “less than $3 a month” hosting companies have crappy customer service as well 🙁 they’re almost always a huge disappointment!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      I’ve actually had good luck with my hosting company. I do have to admit that I’m not a fan of customer service by online chat, but it seems to be the way things are going now :-/

  35. says:

    Thank you for your honesty! I have been at the “bought my domain name and now I’m frozen” stage for for a couple of weeks. Read about a million of those “if you have a pulse, you can set up a money making blog in your sleep” articles, but still had this niggling feeling in the back of my head that I was being sold a load of snake oil. There’s nothing worse than feeling stupid when everyone else seems to think something is super easy. Now, with your encouragement that it’s okay and normal to feel like tearing your hair out, I feel like I can actually do this. Thanks again. Yours is THE ONLY post I’ve read that tells it like it is. I’m heading over to your blog. You’ve got a new fan:)

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hi Cara! Thanks for reaching out!

      I can totally relate to how you’re feeling. Know that you’re NOT CRAZY. It’s NOT as easy as everyone says it is, which really chaps me. I’d rather someone tell me that it’s going to be difficult at first, but I’ll get over that hump once it’s built, than let me think that I’m “some dummy who bit off more than she can chew with this blogging thing”.

      It’s all good! If you’re ripping your hair out trying to get a handle on it, that’s perfectly normal. Like I said, once it’s built, it’s actually smooth sailing. You just have to weather the storm of the build 🙂

      Have an awesome weekend!

  36. says:

    I’m facing a blog redesign. Can you recommend a WordPress site developer who knows what s/he is doing, can/will speak almost jargon free English, and doesn’t cost a zillion dollars?

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hey Suzanne! Thanks for reaching out 🙂 If you’re looking for a developer to redesign your blog without you having to get a second mortgage, I think you have 3 choices. You could go to a site like Upwork, and post it there for developers to bid on. All you have to do is choose which best suits you, and have the conversation with them. Or you could go to Fiverr Pro. I use Fiverr for everything I need that I can’t or don’t have time to do myself. Generally they charge five bucks for small gigs, but Fiverr Pro is for those who’re looking for bigger jobs like a blog redesign. All you have to do is key in what type of skill you’re looking for (in this case, blog design), and you be presented with hundreds of developers who can do the job, at varying prices, from a dozen different countries. 🙂

      Barring those two suggestions, the third is what I decided to do because I wasn’t in the position to pay a fortune to have my blog(s) built; learn to build it yourself. But like I said in my post, building a blog has an insane learning curve. But if you’re up for a digital adventure, this would be it 🙂
      (I think Fiverr Pro is your best option.)

      Good luck!

      Debbie 🙂

  37. Tori says:

    OMG!!! You totally get it!!! I followed another bloggers instructions (paid tutorial) and instantly got lost. Then I followed a guy on YouTube with over a million views and again, got lost, AND locked out of WordPress! After searching the web for how to fix that and several tears shed, I got back in. And shed happy tears at that point! Ha! Now I’ve followed the instructions of yet another guru (he is good) but am STILL having some issues that he’s emailed me to help fix. When you say to have someone else set it up for you…..I wholeheartedly agree! What some of these techs that “show you how to set up a blog in 10 minutes” neglect to remember, is that the majority of us are technically challenged and have no clue what the H they’re talking about. And when you follow instructions, you end up with just the bare bones, the “ skeleton” of the blog. Not the pretty theme example you saw and liked. Such a HUGE learning experience!!!!

    1. She Loves Nice Things says:

      Hi Tori!

      Thanks for reaching out!

      Yaassss girl. I totally GET it. Those who say that you can “set up a blog in 10 minutes” are either insane, or they’re referring to installing WordPress, which you can literally do in under 10 minutes. All it usually requires is one click. It’s choosing a theme for your blog, then getting it to look like the theme demo that you fell in love with, that makes us want to rip our hair out with frustration 🙂 Here are 2 pieces of advice; 1. If you choose a theme that says “download demo info” or something like that in the theme documentation, CLICK THAT BUTTON!! It’ll download the theme the way that it looked when you chose to use it, and all you’ll have to do is replace the theme images, etc. with your own 🙂 and 2. When you’re in your WordPress dashboard, and you go to ‘Appearance’ and ‘themes’, when you’re looking through the “theme preview”, if the preview also looks like the demo, that’s your theme. As before, all you’ll need to do, is replace the theme images, etc. with your own 🙂

      1. Nonarae | From Poor to Prosperity says:

        OMG. YESS. ALL OF THIS. I blog about personal finance now, but the reason I got into blogging in the first place was one of those “look how easy it is to make a gagillion dollars in your first month of blogging” type posts. 🙄😳 my first blog was going to be a good blog but after 3 months of feeling like an idiot because I couldn’t figure out how to get the free theme to do what I wanted (even though they said it was easy, “just plug it in and start writing” *sarcastic eyeroll*). Also I didn’t realize how much work food bloggers put into not only creating new recipes all the time, but their photography! Holy cows, they make it look wayyyyy easier than it is!

        A few years later I came back to blogging. I restarted in personal finance, and I found somebody who was willing to help me get set up for free. I paid $250 for my theme, and she taught me how to use the program to design my site. It was still very difficult, many many years she’d while I worked my way through the learning curve, but I at least had somebody that I could (still do) reach out to whenever I need help with it.

        Moral of my story is that while free or super cheap may be a good option for many people who are more tech savvy, it’s not for everyone. Sometimes you just have to be willing to invest some money into it. Also, those websites that talk about how easy this job is, are liars and really tarnish the reputation of bloggers.

        I used to laugh at jokes about mom bloggers having such an easy life. Since starting my own blog, I will never laugh, ever again, about how easy I think somebody else has it.

        1. She Loves Nice Things says:

          Hey Nonarae;

          Yup! Smoke and mirrors. Horrible, but true. Glad you’re making headway with your blog now!

          Peace 🙂

    2. Terri says:

      OMG…AMEN!!!! I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like that! I’m still messing around with it a month later! Yes, I’m older….but I have done a gift basket web site a few years ago (when there wasn’t any of this stuff preset!

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