The one thing no one tells you about starting a blog

The One Thing No One Tells You About Starting a Blog

If there’s one comment/question that I get a lot, it’s “Blogging seems like it would be a ton of fun! I’d love to start one of my own…is it fairly easy to do?” or “I want to start a blog, because I like to write, but I have no idea where I’d start”.

If you’ve been thinking either of these thoughts, I’m going to answer both with this post.

Write About Your Passion

If you’re looking to start a blog, most people will tell you to “write about something that you’re passionate about”. This was difficult for me, because I didn’t think that I was ‘passionate’ about anything. In my mind, having something that I was ‘passionate’ about, equated to “do you have any hobbies?” I have no hobbies. I like everything in general, nothing in particular.

If you’re one of those people who also doesn’t have any ‘hobbies’ (and there are many, many of us) to speak of, or anything that you’re particularly excited about doing, seeing, being, etc., don’t despair. That was me. I racked my brain for months about what I could possibly write about, that anyone else would give a shit about reading.

Then one day it dawned on me; I love fashion, I love ‘lifestyle’ in the form of things like shopping for cool things for my apartment, trying new restaurants, hunting for great deals on anything I might want, health and wellness topics, etc.

Essentially, I like nice things. Hence the name of this blog.

That was it. That realization gave birth to “She Loves Nice Things”; Food, Fashion, Lifestyle and More. It was perfect ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s not ‘nichey’ as most will tell you to be; finding a niche that you can cater to, and writing about that. “She Loves Nice Things” is about the pursuit of nice things, a decent life, which I suppose covers just about any and everything you can reasonably think of, but whatever. I went with it.

The Steps:

Purchase a Domain Name and Hosting

I’ve built a few blogs in my ‘past lives’, so I knew that the first thing I had to do, was to see if the name I wanted was available as a domain for purchase. Lucky me, it was (obviously). At the same time, I also purchased hosting for my beloved new domain.

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*This next bit is REALLY IMPORTANT. Please read it ๐Ÿ™‚

What’s already out there:

You’re probably already familiar with the “script” from all the other ‘usual suspects’; “I use this web host and you should use it too, because it’s only $2.95 a month! But only with MY link! Wink!”

Horse sh*t.

Here’s the deal on the “$2.95 a month but only with my link” BS; Yes, you can get your hosting for $2.95 a month. I’m cheap AF, and I’d say that’s a great deal, but not only am I cheap, I’m also a hardcore skeptic, and if you tell me that I can only get that price “with your link”, I’m gonna poke around elsewhere to make sure that’s all true.

The Truth, the Whole Truth and Nothing BUT the Truth

I can’t stand half-truths and flat out lies, and there’s SO MUCH of it on the www. I don’t care what you’re trying to sell me, if I smell a lie, I’ll click away faster than you can say “wtf?”

That said, here’s the deal with most “$2.95 a month” hosting deals (you ready?);

Sure…you get your hosting for $2.95 a month! But you only get that price if you pay for 36 months of hosting in advance!

Yeah…that’s what I said. 36 MONTHS IN ADVANCE. If you pay $106.20 ($2.95 x 36), you can have the hosting for your brand new blog, for “$2.95 a month”!ย (I’m Canadian, so that translates to $139.51 for me.)

That pissed me off. I felt like I’d been “baited and switched”. And you don’t see that total until you get to the checkout, and by then, you’ve wasted all kinds of time on the damn thing!

At the moment, I own 7 blogs, and I use this web host for all of them.

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Know why?

I use them because they’re $2.88 a month, and I pay for that MONTH TO MONTH. I don’t pay $2.88 x 36 months up front!

What if I decide to throw in the blogging towel after only a few months?? (Not gonna happen, but I’m playing Devil’s Advocate here.)

*Ok…I have a confession to make here; because I own so many blogs, I have the upgraded version of that plan that lets me host an unlimited number of blogs on the one host, but that’s still only $4.88 a month!!

If you want a WordPress managed blog, even that’s only $8.88 a YEAR!!! Why the hell would you go anywhere else and spend $106.20???

With any of the other web hosts, I would have handcuffed myself into a 3 year commitment with my damn $139.51 payment!! (Canadian, remember.)

I can’t have that. And with 7 blogs, that’s nearly a thousand bucks out of pocket right away with those ‘other guys’!!

Screw that nonsense.

In addition, my hosting company has everything those other guys have; quick customer service (I swear they all know me by name), SSL site security, etc.

CLICK HERE to grab your domain (which will only cost you something like ten bucks a year), and your awesome web hosting at a truly awesome price; just $2.88 a month ๐Ÿ™‚

The next step…

Choose a Blogging Platform:

Now…I’m going to tell you something that no one else is telling you;

(This is me, steadyย handing out the secrets here…)

I tell you this so that you don’t (like I did) start using this blogging platform, and want to throw your computer through a window, thinking that it’s supposed to be easier than it is.

That said, here goes;


Starting a new blog is MUCH more than “all you have to do, is purchase your blog name and hosting, and you’re up and running!”ย 

And don’t let ANYONE tell you different!

WordPress is a fantastic blogging platform. No question; it’s better than pockets. I absolutely LOVE it… Now.

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BUT…when I first started with WordPress, there were many (MANY) times that I actually (no joke) cried with sheer frustration over customizing the various parts of the blog, and sometimes I STILL DO when I’m working on a new blog.

WordPress will make you cry. I promise you that.

People make it sound like WordPress is easy to install and set up, but I’m telling you..IT’S NOT. Not at first anyway. If you don’t already know what you’re doing, WordPress will make you question your mental ability. If you have access to someone who can install and set up your WordPress blog, please, for the love of GOD, get that person to do it.

But if you’re the patient sort, who loves a technical challenge, WordPress is your deal. Go nuts with it.

Once it’s all set up, you’ll need to choose a theme for your new WordPress blog, and customize it. Here’s where the heavy lifting comes in. THIS is the part where you want to hand it off to someone who knows the difference between a “plugin” and a “widget”. Alternately, you can google just about anything you want to know about working with a WordPress function.

The next piece of advice I’d give you, would be to make a list of bloggers that you enjoy, follow them religiously online/social media, and do what they do with their blogs. Some will tell you to do something, but they’ll leave out a very valuable part of that piece of advice. Your job, is to figure out what that piece is ๐Ÿ˜‰

If you’re looking for a web hosting company that you can trust and I haven’t completely scared the living sh*t out of you about starting that blog, click here to get your hosting for an ACTUAL $2.88 a month ๐Ÿ™‚

And that’s it!

Happy blogging!

If you have any questions that I can help with, please shoot me an email ๐Ÿ™‚

Peace ๐Ÿ™‚





  1. OMG!!! You totally get it!!! I followed another bloggers instructions (paid tutorial) and instantly got lost. Then I followed a guy on YouTube with over a million views and again, got lost, AND locked out of WordPress! After searching the web for how to fix that and several tears shed, I got back in. And shed happy tears at that point! Ha! Now Iโ€™ve followed the instructions of yet another guru (he is good) but am STILL having some issues that heโ€™s emailed me to help fix. When you say to have someone else set it up for you…..I wholeheartedly agree! What some of these techs that โ€œshow you how to set up a blog in 10 minutesโ€ neglect to remember, is that the majority of us are technically challenged and have no clue what the H theyโ€™re talking about. And when you follow instructions, you end up with just the bare bones, the โ€œ skeletonโ€ of the blog. Not the pretty theme example you saw and liked. Such a HUGE learning experience!!!!

    1. Hi Tori!

      Thanks for reaching out!

      Yaassss girl. I totally GET it. Those who say that you can “set up a blog in 10 minutes” are either insane, or they’re referring to installing WordPress, which you can literally do in under 10 minutes. All it usually requires is one click. It’s choosing a theme for your blog, then getting it to look like the theme demo that you fell in love with, that makes us want to rip our hair out with frustration ๐Ÿ™‚ Here are 2 pieces of advice; 1. If you choose a theme that says “download demo info” or something like that in the theme documentation, CLICK THAT BUTTON!! It’ll download the theme the way that it looked when you chose to use it, and all you’ll have to do is replace the theme images, etc. with your own ๐Ÿ™‚ and 2. When you’re in your WordPress dashboard, and you go to ‘Appearance’ and ‘themes’, when you’re looking through the “theme preview”, if the preview also looks like the demo, that’s your theme. As before, all you’ll need to do, is replace the theme images, etc. with your own ๐Ÿ™‚

    2. OMG…AMEN!!!! I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels like that! I’m still messing around with it a month later! Yes, I’m older….but I have done a gift basket web site a few years ago (when there wasn’t any of this stuff preset!

  2. I’m facing a blog redesign. Can you recommend a WordPress site developer who knows what s/he is doing, can/will speak almost jargon free English, and doesn’t cost a zillion dollars?

    1. Hey Suzanne! Thanks for reaching out ๐Ÿ™‚ If you’re looking for a developer to redesign your blog without you having to get a second mortgage, I think you have 3 choices. You could go to a site like Upwork, and post it there for developers to bid on. All you have to do is choose which best suits you, and have the conversation with them. Or you could go to Fiverr Pro. I use Fiverr for everything I need that I can’t or don’t have time to do myself. Generally they charge five bucks for small gigs, but Fiverr Pro is for those who’re looking for bigger jobs like a blog redesign. All you have to do is key in what type of skill you’re looking for (in this case, blog design), and you be presented with hundreds of developers who can do the job, at varying prices, from a dozen different countries. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Barring those two suggestions, the third is what I decided to do because I wasn’t in the position to pay a fortune to have my blog(s) built; learn to build it yourself. But like I said in my post, building a blog has an insane learning curve. But if you’re up for a digital adventure, this would be it ๐Ÿ™‚
      (I think Fiverr Pro is your best option.)

      Good luck!

      Debbie ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Thank you for your honesty! I have been at the “bought my domain name and now I’m frozen” stage for for a couple of weeks. Read about a million of those “if you have a pulse, you can set up a money making blog in your sleep” articles, but still had this niggling feeling in the back of my head that I was being sold a load of snake oil. There’s nothing worse than feeling stupid when everyone else seems to think something is super easy. Now, with your encouragement that it’s okay and normal to feel like tearing your hair out, I feel like I can actually do this. Thanks again. Yours is THE ONLY post I’ve read that tells it like it is. I’m heading over to your blog. You’ve got a new fan:)

    1. Hi Cara! Thanks for reaching out!

      I can totally relate to how you’re feeling. Know that you’re NOT CRAZY. It’s NOT as easy as everyone says it is, which really chaps me. I’d rather someone tell me that it’s going to be difficult at first, but I’ll get over that hump once it’s built, than let me think that I’m “some dummy who bit off more than she can chew with this blogging thing”.

      It’s all good! If you’re ripping your hair out trying to get a handle on it, that’s perfectly normal. Like I said, once it’s built, it’s actually smooth sailing. You just have to weather the storm of the build ๐Ÿ™‚

      Have an awesome weekend!

  4. And most of those “less than $3 a month” hosting companies have crappy customer service as well ๐Ÿ™ they’re almost always a huge disappointment!

    1. I’ve actually had good luck with my hosting company. I do have to admit that I’m not a fan of customer service by online chat, but it seems to be the way things are going now :-/

  5. This was a refreshing change. I read the headline and thought “here we go again….”

    But your post actually delivered and wasn’t like the rest of the “noise” out there. So thanks for that! That was an interesting read and yes you’re right. It’s like a ton of bloggers are all building from the same script… gets a little boring at times don’t you think?

    Your post was different and I enjoyed it. Keep going!


    1. Hey John! Thanks for the comment (and the compliment), and YES!! It does get quite boring and extremely discouraging right?

      Glad you enjoyed it ๐Ÿ™‚


  6. Yes, I love this. I remember when I first realized about *that* host. I kept seeing it over and over, every blog I read “recommended” it. Then finally I was like what is going on here? So I clicked over to *that* host and saw why everyone recommended them. I can see how it’s tempting to do that…if you’re totally dishonest…

  7. Wow, thank you!! I purchased my domain name and have several posts written but have felt so lost and overwhelmed with WordPress- I canโ€™t even figure out how to make my blog go live! I have read dozens, maybe a hundred other โ€œwhat you need to knowโ€posts before happening on yours, and glad I did; your post truly delivered.

    1. Yup! “Lost and overwhelmed” is absolutely normal with WordPress. Again…you can Google anything you want to learn (which takes forever), or get someone to build out the theme to the point where all you have to do is log in and post. It’ll save you a TON of frustration and anxiety.

      Peace ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. Couldn’t agree more, creating a successful website is so challenging and takes TIME! Also, love your writing style! ๐Ÿ™‚ Had to pin this blog!

    1. Hey Carmela!

      Thanks for the compliment! Yeah…blogging ain’t easy. Makes me nuts when I read that it is.

      Have an awesome week!

      Peace ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. Very refreshing to hear the truth! I too was sceptical about the whole sign up with my link blah blah. I am tired of reading the same on every blog post. So thank you for the honest advice! โค๏ธ

    1. Hey Joanna;

      You’re most welcome ๐Ÿ™‚


  10. Hi Debbie,

    Thank you so much for this article. You write like you are actually trying to help and not just selling something. I am stuck in that phase where I want to try blogging but I don’t have a “niche” that I could see myself writing about. I love cooking, baking, making my own beauty products, etc. but not enough to write a dissertation on any one of them. It is quite discouraging to think I can’t blog without having one specific topic.

    1. Hey Kelly;

      You can start a blog that doesn’t focus on any one topic in particular. I’m exactly the same way…interested in many things. Cooking, baking and beauty are great topics to include in your content. Don’t be discouraged! Just do it! You won’t know how it would work out until you try it ๐Ÿ™‚



  11. Thank you!!! WordPress is the ultimate love hate! Iโ€™m used to it now, but boy did it take a ton of trial and error… and more error.

    1. Hey Tazia;

      Good LORD yes! Great platform once you’ve pretty much figured it out, but “figuring it out” is a nightmare!

      Have an awesome weekend ๐Ÿ™‚



  12. Oh my goodness, YES. I feel *comfortable* with WordPress at this point, but I remember when I first opened it and stared in horror at the dashboard. It was so intimidating! Blogging is definitely not as simple as “just start writing.” The technical stuff takes practice!

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